Taking condom off

I had been stealthed. Like the bomber of the same name, it happens in darkness and takes its victims by surprise. He had finished inside me. As angry as I was, I struggled to reconcile how violated I felt with how much I liked him. I even tried to spin it as a compliment.

Dating is different in the post- MeToo era, and Jean Hannah Edelstein is here to help you navigate it in her pop-up advice column. Send your romantic quandaries to datingaftermetoo gmail. I was so angry and so freaked out. I am a single woman and trying to be sexually liberal and conscious but to do it in a safe mentally and physically way, and then this happens! Is it the price we pay to play in that realm? In fact, it was rape.

Stealthing, however, is an act in which a man removes his condom during sex without telling his partner. It presents many complex physical and emotional issues. But what exactly does stealthing mean and what does it do? Stealthing during sex is a hot topic of debate these days.

Imagine having sex with a man, agreeing beforehand to use protection, only to find out that he removed the condom during intercourse. That's what a dangerous new sex trend called "stealthing" is all about. And not only does it put partners at risk for STIs and pregnancy— it's also a lesser-known form of assault. Skadden Fellow Alexandra Brodsky recently sat down with The Huffington Post to discuss a study she conducted for the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law around the act and how it affects survivors. She said was inspired to research the topic after she says her women friends were "struggling with forms of mistreatment by sexual partners that weren't considered part of the recognized repertoire of gender based violence.